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How to Help a Friend

Watching a friend go through an abusive relationship can be very scary and you may feel like you’re not sure how to help them. The decision to leave can only be made by the person experiencing the abuse, but there a lot of things you can do to help your friend stay safe.

What Do I Need To Know?

If your friend or family member is undergoing the serious and painful effects of dating abuse, they may have a very different point of view than you. They may have heard the abuse was their fault and feel responsible. If they do choose to leave, they may feel sad and lonely when it’s over, even though the relationship was abusive. They may get back together with their ex many times, even though you want them to stay apart. Remember that it may be difficult for your friend to even bring up a conversation about the abuse they’re experiencing.

What Can I Do?

My Friend is the Abuser

It is difficult to see someone you care about hurt others. You may not even want to admit that your friend, sister or son is abusive. But remember, when you remain silent or make excuses, you’re encouraging their hurtful ways.

Ultimately, the abuser is the only person who can decide to change, but there are things you can do to encourage them to be better. It’s not easy for abusive people to admit that their violent behavior is a choice and accept responsibility for it. They may benefit from having control over their partner and may turn to you to help justify the abuse. Do not support the abuse in any way. Remember, you’re not turning against your friend or family member -- you’re just helping them have a healthy relationship.

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Marshfield Office

505 East Depot St.
Marshfield, WI 54449

Phone: (715) 384-2971
Toll Free Phone: (844) 210-8899
24 hr. Crisis Line: (715) 660-6813
Fax: (715) 384-7826

Office Hours: Monday - Friday 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. or by appointment

Neillsville Office

1031 East Division St. Suite #1
Neillsville, WI 54456

Phone: (715) 743-6401
Toll Free: (877) 743-6262
24 hr. Crisis Line: (715) 660-6813
Fax: (715) 384-7826

Office Hours: Monday - Friday 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. or by appointment