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What is Bullying?

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance.

Are You Being Bullied?

That can feel pretty awful. But, no matter how bad it makes you feel sometimes, you should know you’re not alone. That’s right... many kids all over the world are going through the same things you are going through. Even though you may feel helpless sometimes, there are a lot of things you and others can do to help stop the bullying. Give these tips a try:

Tell An Adult

It’s hard to talk about serious things with adults sometimes, but they can help put a stop to bullying. Tell an adult that you trust and can talk to - your parents, your teacher, your school counselor, your coach, your neighbor.

If you’ve told a grown-up before and they haven’t done anything about it, tell someone else. And if you’re afraid to tell an adult that you have been bullied, get another person - like a friend or a sister or brother - to go with you. Having someone else there to support you can make it a lot less scary.

Tell the adults exactly what has happened - who did the bullying, where and when it happened, how long it’s been happening to you, and how it’s making you feel. If you talk with an adult at your school, ask them what they will do to help stop the bullying. It is their job to help keep you safe. Most adults really care about bullying and will do everything they can to help you.

Stand Up To Them

If it feels safe, try to stand up to the person who is bullying you. If the person who is bullying you thinks you won’t do anything about it, they are more likely to keep picking on you. This doesn’t mean you should fight back or bully them back. Instead, tell the person bullying you that you don’t like it and that they should stop!

Keep it simple. You might just say, “Cut it out, Miranda!”, and then walk away. If possible, try to talk to them in a calm voice. Kids who bully often like to see that they can make you upset. If you’re afraid to talk to the person who is bullying you by yourself, then you might want to ask someone else to be there with you. Kids who bully are more likely to listen, and less likely to bully you, when you’re with someone and not alone.

If you’re not comfortable standing up to someone who has bullied you, that’s definitely OK! Just walk away. But be sure to tell an adult.

Stay In A Group

Kids who bully like to pick on kids who are by themselves a lot– it’s easier and they’re more likely to get away with their bad behavior. If you spend more time with other kids, you may not be an easy “target” and you’ll have others around to help you if you get into a difficult situation!

Join clubs or take part in activities where you’ll meet other kids. Sometimes, it can help to join clubs or take part in activities that interest you. Think about joining a sports team, taking an art class, or joining a scouting group, for example. You can meet other kids who share your interests and you might make some good friends!

Don’t Reply

If you are being bullied online, don’t reply. Replying may actually make the bullying worse. Instead, be sure to tell a family member or another adult you trust.

If possible, block any more communications from this person. (For example, it might be a good idea only to accept messages from people you know.)

Save evidence of the bullying. If you get a nasty e-mail, print it out or save it so that you can show it to an adult.

What Not To Do If You Are Bullied


Have You Witnessed Bullying?

If you see it happening to others, you can help put a stop to it. In order to stop bullying, everyone needs to lend a hand and get involved! And even though it might be easier to stand by and watch (or try to ignore the bullying), just remember, we all need a little help from time to time! Think about how you might feel if the bullying was happening to YOU. There are all kinds of great things you can do to help. So the next time you see someone being bullied, try one (or more) of these ideas and make a real difference!

Report the bullying to an adult. Many kids who are bullied are scared to tell an adult about it (especially a teacher or principal), because they are afraid the person bullying them will find out and the bullying will just get worse. That’s where you come in. Even if it’s a little scary for you to tell an adult about bullying that you see, it’s the right thing to do. It’s not tattling – you’re helping someone out. Who should you tell? You could tell your teacher, school counselor, school nurse, parents, coach, or any adult you feel comfortable talking with. It might be a little less scary if you ask a friend to go along with you. Be sure to tell the adult exactly what happened – who was bullied, who did the bullying, and where and when it happened. If you’re not sure if another kid is being bullied but you think they probably are – it’s good to report that, too. Most adults really care about bullying and will be VERY glad that you told them about it. If you told an adult and you don’t think they did anything about the bullying (or if it isn’t getting any better), find another adult to tell.

Support someone who is being bullied. Sometimes the best thing you can do for a person who is being bullied is just to be there for him or her and be a friend. Whether this means agreeing to walk home with him or her after school, sitting with him or her on the bus or at lunch, trying to include him or her in your school or social activities, or just spending some time with him or her and trying to understand what he or she is going through, it will make a huge difference! Although these may seem like small things to you, they will show a kid who is being bullied that you care about him or her and the problems he or she is facing. And that can be a BIG help!

Stand up to the person doing the bullying. If you feel safe doing this, tell a person who is bullying that what he or she is doing is wrong and that he or she should stop. Keep it simple. You could just say, “Ben, cut it out. Nobody thinks that’s funny.” If you can, get some friends to join you. When kids who bully see that other kids don’t think it’s cool, they are more likely to stop. Just be sure you don’t bully them back! It’s not easy to stand up to kids who may be bigger and stronger than you or really popular, so if you’re not comfortable doing this, that’s OK. (But be sure to tell an adult!)

Do You Bully Others?

If you bully others, we’re glad you’re here. If you’re not sure if what you’re doing is really bullying, then take our. (But here’s a hint: If you are hurting or threatening others in some way and using your size, strength or popularity to do it ... you’re probably bullying someone!)

Hey - let’s face it, hurting and making others feel bad is NEVER cool. Just admitting that you are doing things to harm others takes some guts. But that’s not enough. Trying to find out what you should do to change the way you’re acting ... now that’s a step in the right direction! So check out these tips ... they’ll help you to start treating others with the respect they deserve.

Think about what you’re doing ... and how it affects others. If you think calling others names is really harmless, or if you think pushing, hitting or stealing from other kids is funny, you’ve forgotten what it feels like to be hurt yourself! Teasing, hitting, keeping others out of a group - all of these things harm someone. All of us have been hurt at one time or another and we all know how it feels - awful! So the next time you are about to bully someone:

Talk to an adult. Making other people feel badly should never make you feel good. If it does, or if you’re not really sure why you bully other kids, you need to talk to an adult about it. Even though you might think an adult won’t understand, or that you’ll get yourself into trouble, they can help! Whether it is your parent, a teacher or another trusted grown-up, you should tell an adult how you’ve been acting so that they help you deal with it. School counselors are also great people to talk to about how you feel and how to change the way you treat others.

Our Services

Marshfield Office

505 East Depot St.
Marshfield, WI 54449

Phone: (715) 384-2971
24 hr. Crisis Line: (715) 384-2971
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