If your friend or family member is undergoing the serious and painful effects of dating abuse, they may have a very different point of view than you. They may have heard the abuse was their fault and feel responsible. If they do choose to leave, they may feel sad and lonely when it’s over, even though the relationship was abusive. They may get back together with their ex many times, even though you want them to stay apart. Remember that it may be difficult for your friend to even bring up a conversation about the abuse they’re experiencing.
It is difficult to see someone you care about hurt others. You may not even want to admit that your friend, sister or son is abusive. But remember, when you remain silent or make excuses, you’re encouraging their hurtful ways.
Ultimately, the abuser is the only person who can decide to change, but there are things you can do to encourage them to be better. It’s not easy for abusive people to admit that their violent behavior is a choice and accept responsibility for it. They may benefit from having control over their partner and may turn to you to help justify the abuse. Do not support the abuse in any way. Remember, you’re not turning against your friend or family member -- you’re just helping them have a healthy relationship.
505 East Depot St.
Marshfield, WI 54449
Phone: (715) 384-2971
24 hr. Crisis Line: (715) 384-2971
Fax: (715) 384-7826
Office Hours: Monday - Friday 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. or by appointment